I Learnt to Give

 

Concrete Experience: “what I did” section

I am not a very giving person unless I feel it very deeply. I was rejected by other children and that foreshadowed later behavior problems (Thompson, 2018). Yet, in the recent group project, when a peer joined on the last day with apologies, I did not ask or say anything but welcomes her and we shared the project done by us with her freely. She got it without doing a day’s work.

 

Reflective Observations: “what I wonder” section

How have I become the kind of person I am today, (Thompson, 2018)?

This is because in a STEM course, my Achilles heel, when I had no clue what to do for the group project, a peer who was a master carried it on his shoulders giving the rest of us the space to do what we can to our best. That was a game changer for me as he said, “you are doing the best you can and I am doing the best I can”. I wonder how anyone could be so giving!

 

Abstract Conceptualization: “what I learned”/”so what” section

This personality development derived from the interaction of the social influence of the peer and changed me (Thompson, 2018). I am no longer pushing for things to myself and rejecting others. I learnt that we can carry our peers on our shoulders and that is no big deal. This was a transformative learning experience for me that created new schema(McLeod, 2017).

 

Application: “now what” section

I want to try it in multiple situations. I see I can be a giver to my subordinates or peers but not to the boss. I can give easily in a course but difficult to do that in an office. Next steps is to observe when I give and when I shrink and explore…why?